A Compliment A Day Keeps The Unhappiness Away
Who doesn’t like to get a heartfelt compliment!
My daughter Alex, who is now eight, has been the queen of heartfelt compliments since she could talk. She brightens days and makes even the grumpiest person smile and feel good. She’ll walk by someone and compliment their earrings, or necklace or smile or eyes. They are spontaneous and from her heart and people know it. I have seen her make even the unhappiest looking person drop their frown and smile. You can just feel the impact she makes.
Everyone notices from her sisters to strangers passing by.
Alex is who inspired this week’s parenting tip for getting happier and more grateful children. Almost every day, my other girls and I see how good she makes other people feel, and how happy she is when she does. We all give and get compliments here and there, but giving compliments is just part of who she is!
So, this week, give at least one compliment a day to someone and encourage your children to as well.
Make sure to keep track of the compliments you give and also the compliments that you get (be sure to watch the video for a fun way to keep track).
Feel grateful and appreciative when someone gives you a compliment and notice how good you feel when you give compliments to others.
Make giving at least one compliment a day a habit for you and for your children. You’ll feel so good when you do and so will your children.
Because you also ‘get what you give’, don’t be surprised when you start getting more compliments yourself and so do your children. Remember when you do, to accept them graciously and teach your children to as well. Don’t downplay or minimize them because when you do, you’re taking away from the joy it brings others to compliment you.
When someone gives you a gift, you accept it and say thank you. A compliment is also a gift from the person giving it, and should be treated as such.
“Thank you so much. It was so nice of you to notice,” is a simple and gracious way to accept a compliment and show your gratitude and appreciation for it.
Be sure to discuss the compliments you gave and got each day whenever works for your family, like at dinner or before bed. When you know that you’re going to be ‘talking about it’ you and your children are much more likely to pay attention and look for opportunities to give others compliments and maybe notice compliments you might have missed otherwise!
That’s it, super simple, right?! But as always remember that knowing it, and doing it, are two very different things so if you want the benefit of the tip this week you and your children actually have to do the tip this week!
Now it’s your turn, I would love to hear from you in the comments below. What do you think of this tip and how will you and your children keep track of the compliments you get and give? Also, be sure to come back after a few days and let us know how it went.
Thanks so much for being here, for being a mom or dad, and for everything you do each and every day to be the best one you can be!
We can have happier and more grateful children.
We can be happier and more grateful ourselves.
And we can, and we are, changing the world one child, and one family at a time, starting with our own.
Thanks so much for watching, and I’ll see you next time!