Dear Girls are journal entries which include all of the best life lessons, character development, how to design, create and live your best life lessons, and more that I’ve been teaching my children for the past 15+ years!
The lessons are universal and I hope that they will help inspire you to teach your children these lessons and more!
I’ll show you how I’ve taught my children these important life lessons, in bite sized bits, and how I was able to do it despite everything else that we “real moms and dads” have going on each and every day!
They’re simple, they’re fun and they can help you and your children start creating your best lives today!
Cheri Fogarty here and today I’m going to tell you what “Dear Girls” is and how it’s going to help you and your children create your best lives.
Now I know that’s a big statement but it’s true and I’ll explain why in just a minute but first I just want to tell you what “Dear Girls” is.
It’s basically journal entries that I’ve been keeping for my four children, the oldest of whom at the shooting of this video, is 17 and the youngest is 10. I have four daughters and I started writing dear girls journals or journals to them when my oldest was in the womb.
I didn’t know if she was a girl or boy at the time so it was either Dear Caitlin or Dear Connor and although I’ve written to each of my children individually many, many times over the years, I also found that I was saying a lot of the same things to each of them every time I wrote.
Remember, this was before iPhones and videos like we can do now, like I do now. Now I shoot my dear girls on videos just like this. After I shoot this video explaining what dear girls is, I will do a dear girls for my children. Maybe I’ll also share that one with you!
But basically I found myself saying the same things over and over. While I was talking about what we did on a daily basis, funny things the kids did and said, of course those were in there as well, but ultimately I discovered that many of the things I was teaching were the same best life lessons, character development, personal development – basically everything I wanted my children to know if I wasn’t there to tell them.
Because of these journals I always told my children that “no matter what happens to me you’ll always hear me, that I’ll never stop talking” and now with video literally I won’t stop talking! They have thousands of pages and hours of videos, journal and everything else.
Going back to what “Dear Girls” was – these personal development lessons, best like character, all of the things that I wanted my children to know and to teach them…. I always felt like it was my insurance policy.
Also I loved doing them. I loved capturing those important lessons for my children and I wanted them to hear and see them at the time and understand that even when they were little I was teaching them these things.
They were my insurance policy because I like to be prepared in case something ever happened to me. I figured they would at least have the journal, and even though you can’t have ever said everything, and there’s no substitute for not being there, but it was something.
Little did I know that I almost had to cash in on that insurance policy when my children were 1, 4, 7 and 9 and I was diagnosed with breast cancer.
I’ve talked about this in other videos and if you know anything about my story you know that it literally changed my life and I truly say, although at the time nobody believed me, but the more and more I tell the story the more I think people finally are starting to believe me.
Having breast cancer was one of the best things that ever happened to me. Besides having children having breast cancer is one of the best things that has ever happened to me.
People ask me all the time “if you could go back, if you could trade what you learned and who you are now and not have had breast cancer, have experienced the pain and suffering, have the surgeries and scars and all of that 100% I would take the experience any day of the week because of what I learned because of who I am.
I’m such a better person and such a better parent and I’m so much happier and so much more grateful and while the experience itself was not fun by any means, and I had a lot of pain and suffering, I wouldn’t change it for anything.
So back to the “Dear Girls” I had been keeping. I truly believe, and again if you know my story, at the time I was waiting for the biopsy results I truly believed that I had two months to live for a variety of reasons which I won’t get into here but it’s a good story for all girls and moms and women and will be on the website.
So I thought I had 2 months to live and I thought well if I’ve got two months and that’s all I have what would I do? And you know what I came up with? Again there were other things as well, but I wanted to finish the Dear Girls and tell them everything I wanted to teach them.
That’s what I was going to spend my last two months doing. A very long story short when the biopsy results came back and my doctor said “the bad news is you have breast cancer, the good news is you’re going to live” I was so happy because not only did it, as you’ve probably heard me talk about, change my life because it made me more grateful more grateful than I’ve ever been, happier because of it but it also confirmed my purpose in writing these dear girls.
What I also said was that okay, now that I’ve done this now that I know it’s what’s most important, this is what I was going to do with my last two months, so I decided right then and there that I would teach these lessons to my children – all of the best life lesson and the character development – why I start including them the dear girls.
I wasn’t just random advice and journaling anymore, although I had that too, it was specific life lesson that they could understand in bite sized bits, that they could one day teach their children.
So that’s what Dear Girls is. Dear Girls are my letters and love to my children, everything I want them to know if I weren’t here to tell them. Everything that I hope that they use to design, live and create their best life possible and that’s what I wanted for them, and that’s what I want for you.
These are lessons that are universal. These are things that you can use to teach your children and again I’m just presenting them in a “Dear Girls” because that’s how I wrote them so when I put some of these on, and I won’t put all of them on, many of them were very personal to each of my children and I won’t include those.
But I will include many of the universal lessons and again there’s no grammar check, these were written years ago, most of them, because again I’m shooting videos now but they’re there. They’re there for you to see what it was like as a parent when my children were younger.
…. Sorry I’m back I had to fix the lighting because it was flickering in and out – sorry!
But basically these lessons are universal – that you can use and teach your children. They’re glimpses into what it was like for me as a mom and my younger years. It also shows that I have been learning and teaching this for 17 plus years. I’ve been studying personal development since I was 14 years old.
I took one of the absolute first Tony Robbins course, on those cassette tapes and I still have it even though I have nothing to play it on because I just love seeing it!
I have been a student of personal development and best life lessons and everything since I was 14 years old and I love it. It’s my passion in life, it’s my business – it’s the business I do – teaching this to children and other busy moms.
So I was bound and determined to include these in the “Dear Girls”.
So “Dear Girls” are basically just something you and your kids or just you can read and if you glean a little something, and there are some funny moments and again there’s no editing no filters this is what I thought at the time of course my ideas on a lot of these things have evolved and changed and some things they haven’t.
What I was thinking and what I was telling them at the time and so whenever I have, we moved three years ago so a lot of these are in boxes, but when I find pictures I’ll include those as well and pictures you know the kids at that age and I’ll come back and have them as I find them….
I just wanted to let you know what “Dear Girls” is and then I hope it can help you by not only helping you see that you can teach these to your children, because when I was writing these dear girls I wasn’t doing it as a business. This was from my heart and what I wanted to teach my children – again an insurance policy.
So, it’s something you can do too. Whether your children or two or 22 you can teach them these things, you can shoot videos, you can write them letters, you can teach them these best life lessons and I hope that you’ll find value in them as well, if not humor, in some cases.
It’s real life, real mom, real-world parenting, just like you’re doing!
So, that’s it, that’s what “Dear Girls” is. I hope you enjoy them and if you do share them with other moms you know who might enjoy them as well and benefit from them.
As always thank you so much for being here, thank you for being a mom or dad, and for everything you do each and every day to be the best one you can be.
Thank you so much for watching and I hope to see you soon!
p.s. here are a few “Dear Girls” from previous posts if you want to check them out! I’ll be posting more as I find them!