3 Steps to More Grateful Children

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If you want to teach your children to be more grateful there are three things you have to do.

If you do all three of these things, in the right order, then you can get more grateful children, and be more grateful yourself.

But if you’re missing even one of them, it’s going to be a whole lot harder, if not impossible…

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3 Steps to More Grateful Children

Hi, Cheri Fogarty here, author of How To Get Happier & More Grateful Children in Just 21 Days, and founder of The Habit Gratitude Blueprint™ for Busy Moms and Families, where we show you, step-by-step how to create the habit of gratitude in your busy family, so you can have happier and more grateful children and be happier and more grateful yourself.

Today, I want to tell you what the three steps to gratitude are.

If you want to teach your children to be more grateful there are three things you have to do.

STEP 1: The first is to shape thoughts. You have to shape thoughts and awareness to gratitude.

The reason that you have to do this is because it’s human nature to take for granted what we’ve always had. We have so much in today’s world. Our kids have more more than any other children throughout the history of time.

And yet, they’re less and less grateful. They’re not appreciative of most of those things and they again, it’s human nature. If we’ve always had electricity, most of us aren’t appreciative for electricity. If we’ve always had running water, we don’t appreciate running water. That’s just human nature.

So what we have to do and the first step is to start paying attention and being aware of our thoughts and making sure that they’re grateful thoughts and helping our children shape their thoughts for gratitude.

We have to be aware and pay attention to all of the things in our homes, in our lives, about ourselves, our community, and our families that we have to be grateful for.

There are a lot of things.

So first and foremost, shape your thoughts and help you children shape theirs for gratitude.

STEP 2: The second step in teaching your children to be more grateful is to make sure that your words are in line with gratitude and appreciation and happiness as well.

Our words are really just our thoughts manifested.

So if you’re blaming or complaining, or your children are, or you’re talking about what you don’t have versus what you do have, chances are your thoughts aren’t grateful. You aren’t being grateful, so your thoughts probably aren’t grateful either.

So once our thoughts and awareness are on gratitude we have to make sure that our words reflect gratitude and appreciation and positive thoughts and abundance, kindness and compassion and all of those things as well.

So once our thoughts and words are aligned – and again, if you catch yourself or your children using words that aren’t grateful or appreciative, or blaming or complaining to talking about what you don’t have, that when you stop and say, “listen, I wasn’t being very grateful there.” So instead, change your words and teach by example and show your children what it means to change your words which helps change thoughts.

And finally, and this is probably the most important piece… the first thing you have to do to teach your children, especially for children, and teenagers in particular, because it can be harder to teach kids and teenagers to be grateful. It can be harder, but not impossible, but you absolutely can. That’s a myth out there that you can’t kids, especially teenagers to be more grateful, but you absolutely can, you just have to do it in the right way. You have to know what to do and how to do it.

Step 3: Is to take grateful actions.

When kids especially and teenagers in particular, take grateful actions, for example, giving someone a thank you note. Then that person shows them gratitude and appreciation in return, it makes your children feel good and it creates this gratitude cycle and it inspires more grateful actions, and that for kids and teenagers in particular is how they start feeling more grateful.

That’s why it’s so important, because you can’t just think your way to gratitude and neither can your kids. You can’t just talk your way to being more grateful and neither can your children. 

But when you shape thoughts, words and actions together, that’s how you start creating the habit of gratitude. 

But again, you need all three of these things because you can’t just think or talk your way to being more grateful and neither can your children.

And you can’t just tell your children they have to be grateful. That doesn’t work, right?!

Telling your children they have to do something rarely works at least for me. Do as I say, not as I do, doesn’t work in the real parenting world.

You have to be the example here. You have to shape your thoughts and make sure your words are in line with gratitude and appreciation and take grateful actions and model this for your children. Because if you want your children to practice what you preach, you have to practice what you preach. If you want more grateful children, you have to be more grateful and it all starts with shaping thoughts, words and actions.

So that’s it. You can start doing this today.

You can start paying attention to your thoughts, and watching your words and paying attention to your children’s words which will give you a big clue into what their thoughts are.

If you want to know how to put this into action with some super simple tools, because that’s how you shape thoughts and words and actions. You can pay attention, you can be aware, but it’s a lot easier if you use tools to help you.

So if you want to know more about that and actually how to put what I’ve taught you into action, and start doing it to create the habit of gratitude, head over to CheriFogarty.com after the episode, if you’re not already there, and we have all sorts of tips, tools, strategies and programs to help you do just that, in the real world we live in as busy moms and dads. Because everything we do – shaping thoughts, words and actions, creating the habit of gratitude has to work in the real world we live in so we have all sorts of tips, tools, ideas and programs to help you do just that.

It’s your turn now. I’d love to hear from you in the comments below. Let me know what you think of this. Let me know how this week you’re going to shape thoughts, words and actions, and what grateful actions you can take. Brainstorm what grateful actions with your kids, things they can do to inspire more feelings of gratitude – whether it’s helping out a friend or a neighbor, sending a thank you note or something like that.

Brainstorm with your kids, get some ideas together and then do them!

So that’s it. As always, thank you so much for being here, for being a mom or dad, and for everything you do each and every day to be the best one you can be. It’s a hard, hard job and I honor you for your commitment to being the best one you can be. It’s not an easy job but it’s one of, if not the most important, jobs in the world Because what we’re doing, what we’re teaching our children, the values we impart, are doing nothing short of shaping the future of the world and making it a better place for us and for our children and I honor you for doing it.

Thank you so much and remember we can, we absolutely can, have happier and more grateful children. We can be happier and more grateful ourselves. And the way we change the world is one child and one family at a time, starting with our own.

Thank you so much for being here and I’ll see you next time.

Cheri

Additional Information:

As we always do, as part of our mission to help moms and dads be the best parents they can be, we give you ways to put what you’ve learned into action and ‘do it’.

Remember, common sense isn’t common practice. Learning something isn’t the same as doing something.

Knowing you need to teach your children to be more grateful, and actually teaching them to be more grateful, and two very different things, especially in the world we live in!

So be sure to check out our website is you’re not already there at http://www.cherifogarty.com for all sorts of FREE tips, tools, ideas and strategies for getting more grateful children as well as products and online training programs to teach you step-by-step how to do it.

Or check out or newest online training and coaching program, The Habit Gratitude Blueprint™ For Busy Families: It’s the super simple and fun, step-by-step system for creating the habit of gratitude with your children no matter how busy you are or your family is!

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