Be Happy Now & Teach Your Children to Be Too!
Today’s Thought Shaper: Be Happy!
Teach your children, and remember yourself, that:
- Happiness is a choice
- Choose to be happy
- Be happy right now
- Live your life filled with happiness
Today’s Thought Shaper is “Be Happy”.
Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy, right here, right now, no matter what else is going on in your life.
No matter how many times I’ve tried to teach this to you, or practice it myself, it’s easy to fall back into the habit of thinking that something outside of ourselves will make us happy. “I’ll be happy once I have _____, once I’m able to ______, once I’ve ______.” “If all of those crazy drivers would just stay on their side of the double yellow line and not keep trying to run me off the road, then I’ll be happy!!!” That is/was actually my latest test. Although my overall happiness certainly doesn’t depend on others not hitting me, it still has been (I’ve been allowing it to) chipping away at my daily good mood!
This is why (I won’t even get into the drive to pre-school today!) most of us need reminding, often on a daily basis to practice our best life lessons, today, to be happy, right here, right now, no matter what.
Believe me, I know it’s easier said than done, but there are few things more important. As Abraham Lincoln famously said, “Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Happiness is a choice, pure and simple, and the choice is ours, not our spouse, parents, friends or bad drivers! If I want to be happy, I need to just be happy, no matter what the outside circumstances are. That isn’t to say that I can’t work on improving them, or working towards what I want, but why wait to be happy while I’m doing it, I can be happy right now, no matter what.
While bad drivers have been particularly irksome lately, I wasn’t bothered in the least bit by having breast cancer. In fact, I was probably happier during that time than I’ve every truly been, in part because I was more grateful than I’d ever been. I also finally realized, as my right brain caught up with my left, that in that moment, sitting on the front steps watching Sydney flutter around the yard, believing I had just two months to live, how happy I was. My happiness wasn’t dependent upon the outcome of my lumpectomy, how long I had to live, what I hadn’t done that day or might not do tomorrow. I was happy because I was there, in that moment, fully present, grateful to be alive right then and there and to see, really see, Sydney enjoy just fluttering around the yard in her blue polka dot dress.
So, happiness is a choice. I choose to be happy most of the time and it is truly life changing. Why wait to be happy when you can be happy right now.
I’m sure I’ll get a chance to practice this on my way to preschool pickup this afternoon! I’ll let you know how it goes!
Take Action Challenge:
Remember, if you want to be happy, be happy! The time to be happy is right here, right now.
“Remember happiness doesn’t depend upon who you are or what you have;
it depends solely on what you think.”
– Dale Carnegie