So, there’s a really simple way to improve your relationships and to be better connected to your children, your spouse, your family and even your friends.
It’s also this week’s tip for busy moms and dads for getting happier and more grateful children and for being happier and more grateful yourself:
If you want to be better connected and have more positive relationships, make sure that your ratio of positive thoughts and interactions is 3:1, 5:1 or even 7:1 to negative thoughts and interactions.
Sounds pretty basic, right? But common sense, isn’t always common practice.
Research has shown that the best relationships (and even as an indicator of which marriages are more likely to succeed or fail) include a certain ratio of positive to negative thoughts and/or interactions. The most common ratio discussed is 5:1 positive to negative.
The idea though, that you’ll have better relationships with people when you have more positive interactions with them, is pretty much common sense, right?! But knowing it, and actually doing it, in the ‘real’ world we busy parents and families live in is often easier said than done which is why we’re making it our tip for this week.
So, this week is Part 1 and it’s all about us focusing on, and having, more positive thoughts and interactions with our children. Next week we will discuss how to help our children with this, but for this week, it’s just about working on this ourselves so that we can better model it for our children!
There are many ways to do this, but this week we’re going to focus on three very easy, but very powerful ways to make sure that more of our interactions with our children are positive.
1. Gratitude & Appreciation
A great way to have positive feelings for, and interactions with, our children is to focus on gratitude and appreciation; what we appreciate about them or things that they do. Showing our gratitude and appreciation to others, especially our children, leaves them, and us, feeling great!
A simple heartfelt compliment is a great way to add more positivity to all of your interactions!
Stopping what you’re doing, not being distracted, and being totally present with your children when they’re talking to you is another way to positively interact them. It shows them that you value what they’re saying and that nothing is more important in that moment than they are.
Be sure to watch the video to learn more and for how to get started today!
Simple, right? It is, but remember that knowing it, and doing it, are two very different things, so be sure to do it this week!
As always, we would love to hear from you in the comments below. Let us know what you think of this tip and then be sure to come back after a few days and let us know how it’s going.
Thanks so much for being here, for being a mom or dad, or for everything you do each and every day to be the best one you can be.
We can have happier and more grateful children; we can be happier and more grateful ourselves; and we can change the world, one child, and one family at a time, starting with our own.
Thanks for watching and I’ll see you next time.