Too many of us, myself included, don’t understand, or forget, just how powerful words are.
Words are extremely powerful and meaningful because, in essence, they are our thoughts manifested.
We can check in and see just how grateful we’re feeling, by listening to our words. Likewise, we can check in and see how grateful our children are feeling by listening to their words.
“Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or ill.” – Buddha
So, this week’s tip for busy moms and dads for getting happier & more grateful children, and being happier & more grateful yourself, is to:
Watch your words and help your children watch theirs.
To see if we’re feeling grateful this week we’re going to pay attention to our words. If our words, or our children’s words don’t reflect gratitude, then we’re going to stop, notice, and change our words to words that reflect gratitude and appreciation instead of ingratitude or lack of appreciation.
So, if you’re blaming or complaining (or your children are), then you’re not feeling grateful.
If you’re talking about what you don’t have (or your children are), instead of appreciating what you do have, you’re not feeling very grateful.
The first step is always awareness; being aware when you’re not feeling grateful, and when you are.
The second step is about action. When you notice that your words, or your children’s words, are reflecting gratitude and appreciation, notice, point it out, talk about it, discuss how you’re feeling right now – happy, grateful, appreciative and how good it feels.
When you notice that you or your children aren’t using grateful words, stop and talk about this too. Notice how you’re feeling. If your words aren’t grateful, or your children’s aren’t, then chances are you’re feeling ungrateful or unappreciative and definitely not happy.
So, step-by-step this week:
Notice and be aware of your words and whether or not they reflect gratitude and appreciation (and help your children notice and be aware of their words)
Take action to change your words to words of gratitude and appreciation, and help your children change theirs
Here are just a few examples of words that reflect gratitude and appreciation:
“Thank you, I appreciate it, I appreciate your help, thank you for, what a great day, I’m so happy that, I love how you, . . .”
That’s it, super simple right? But as always remember that knowing it, and doing it, are two different things. Common sense isn’t always common practice!
So if you want the benefit of the tip this week you have to actually do the tip this week!
Also remember that we have to practice what we preach if we want our children to practice what we preach. We show our children how to speak with more gratitude and appreciation, by speaking with more gratitude and appreciation ourselves!
Now it’s your turn! In the comments below please let us know what you think of this tip and then be sure to come back and let us know how it goes this week. Did paying attention to your words this week help you feel more grateful?
Thanks so much for being here, for being a mom or dad, and for everything you do each and every day to be the best one you can be, including teaching your children to be more grateful!
Remember, we can have happier & more grateful children.
We can be happier & more grateful ourselves.
And we can change the world, one child and one family at a time, staring with our own.
I’ll see you next time!
“Be careful of your thoughts; they may become words at any moment.”- Ira Gassen