Create Your Best Life & Teach Your Children To Create Theirs
Here’s another “Dear Girls” – Best life parenting lessons from me and my children, to you and yours!
This week I’m talking about what Creating Your Best Life Means and how to help your children do it. Plus, you’ll get the Creating My Best Life Framework that I created years ago to help my children start designing, creating and living their best lives and you and your children can start using it to design, create and live your best lives!
Also, I’m a real mom living in the real world, just like you, so watch towards the end of the video for a real world interruption and my dog making a cameo!!
Hi. Cheri Fogarty here, and today I’m going to talk to you about what Creating My Best Life is, what it means and how to do it. These are articles and journals I wrote to my children years ago, but I think they can benefit us all, and if you want to learn more about Dear Girls, all the best life lessons, how to design, create, and live your best life, and teach your children, more importantly how to design, create, and live their best lives, be sure to check out the links below or head over to cherifogarty.com after the episode to learn more.
What Creating My Best Life means to each of us. Specifically, what Creating My Best Life means to each of us is as unique as we are. The following definition of Creating My Best Life is the framework from which you can begin to determine what your best life looks like and to help your children discover what theirs look like.
Living a meaningful and purposeful life filled with love, happiness, and fulfillment.
Having everything they want to have, being everything they want to be, and doing everything they want to do based on what’s most important to them.
And growing, continually growing, as a person and as a human being.
What gives your life meaning? Who and what do you love and what makes you happy is unique to you. What is most important to you? What do you want to have, to be, to do? It’s all unique to you. What your best life looks like only you can determine. The same holds true for our children. They are as different and unique as we are, and their best lives reflect this.
Our job as parents is to help them discover their unique talents, skills, and abilities to help them discover what they love to do, who they are, and who they want to be, what they want to have. Our job is to empower them to grow as individuals and as human beings. Our job and our privilege is to give them the tools and support to create their best lives possible and to model it as we create our own.
We create our best lives and teach our children to create theirs in man ways. It all starts with our thoughts, however. Shape your thoughts and create your best life. In order to create our best lives, we have to grow as people and as human beings. We have to build our character. The character traits we need to create our best lives.
After the character, I have 10 character traits, 11 character traits now, essential character traits to creating your best life that you teach by using these best life lessons I’ve come up. They’re for another video, but those are the essentials to creating your best life and teaching your children. From here, we make sure that our words and actions are in line with creating our best lives which form habits and eventually the character, which continues to enable us and our children to create our best lives.
Creating your best life is a lifelong pursuit. It’s what life is all about. There will be much more specifically on how to create your best life and empower your children to create theirs, so keep checking back.
Basically, I created this definition of creating your best life years ago when I was parenting with the end in mind, and I’ve talked about that before. When I was trying to decide as a parent, because in the daily craziness of 4 young children and crying and screaming and everything, dishes and dinner and everything that needed to be done, I was like, “Oh, my gosh. I don’t feel like a good parent,” because I’m just running around from one thing to the next, so frustrated. It was overwhelming and there was really not a lot meaningful and purposeful other than just being with my children.
I discovered and said, “Okay. This is not what I love,” the cleaning up squashed peas and all of that. I loved being with my children but I didn’t love a lot of that, and without the meaning and purpose, I wasn’t finding a lot of happiness in those daily chores. What I decided is, okay. If I’m going to do this parenting thing, if I’m going to be home with my kids even while I’m running a business from home, I am going to parent with the end in mind. I‘m going to think what in the end is it that I want for my children, and that’s how I came up with this framework of creating your best life.
For me, because that’s what I’ve been doing as a student of personal development for 30 plus years … I took the original Tony Robbins course and I read everything and researched in parenting and business and personal development books. It’s my mission and passion. I knew that that’s what I had been doing. I didn’t define it as that, but that’s what I’ve been doing. It encompasses all of that personal development, all the best life lessons, everything I’ve been learning and doing, and I thought, gosh, people spend their entire lives learning this stuff. What if I could teach this to my children from day 1.
That’s what the end I wanted for my children was. I wanted them to design to live, to create and to live their best lives. That’s where I started, with the end in mind. I thought that’s what I’m doing for me, and that’s what I want to model for my children, and that’s what I want to teach them. No matter what else is going on on a daily basis that didn’t bring necessarily happiness, all the daily grind, that was bringing me meaning and purpose because that was my mission, my values. Just like an organization has one, I was parenting with the end in mind with the goal of inspiring, motivating, and empowering my children to design, create, and live their best lives.
That brought meaning and purpose, and that definition, that framework I came up with, living meaningful and purposeful lives filled with love, happiness, and fulfillment, doing everything you want to do, being everything you want to be, having everything you want to have based on what’s most important to you and growing as a person and as a human being, encompassed everything I could think of that I wanted for my children.
Now, specifically, what that means for me, for each of my children, and for you and yours is uniquely different to each and everyone of us. That’s why I created the framework and defined it like that because it’s unique to each of us. We have to figure out what it is for us, and we have to help our children figure out what it is for them. That’s our job as parents.
It’s fun, it’s exciting, and it also gives meaning and purpose despite everything that’s going on, especially if you’re a young mom and have young children, or maybe you’re not a young mom but you have young children, whatever the case may be. It gets past that daily grind because you know what you’re doing is most important.
Now, again, that’s the framework. What it is to you and to your children, and of course, when they’re two, it’s very different than when they’re 22. It grows and evolves with them. You can start as early as you want figuring that out, what your authentic self is, what you love, what you’re good at, who you love, being grateful. All of these best life lessons and character development is how I create, help my children create their best lives, and you can use it to help your children create their best lives. These character traits, the essential character traits … Garage is opening so someone’s coming home … and best life lessons.
[Real mom / real world!! There’s my dog wagging his tail…]
I hope you’ll check out the links below or head over to cherifogarty.com after the episode to learn more. I’d love to help you help your children design, create, and live their best lives possible.
Thank you so much for being here and for being a mom or a dad and for everything you do each and every day to be the best when you can be. It’s a hard job and I honor you for your commitment for doing it!
Remember, we can have happier and more grateful children. We can be happier and more grateful ourselves, and we can teach our children to create their best lives while we create ours. We change the world one child and one family at a time starting with our own.
Thank you so much for watching, and I’ll see you next time.
p.s. The first step in creating your best life, and teaching your children to create theirs, is making gratitude a habit in your home. It’s one of the essential character traits and the foundation for all others. With gratitude you can create your best life. Without it, you can’t.
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